Life is unfair. Why do I say that? Because we are free and unfree at the same time.
“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does. It is up to you to give [life] a meaning.”
Jean-Paul Sartre
Sartre takes our freedom to the extreme in that we can take our own life and end it at any moment. We are condemned to find a reason to live and not take the final step, and this finding of a reason is the meaning you give to your life.
If you are not satisfied with parts of your life, let’s say your work becomes meaningless to you, you can repeat to yourself all the reasons why you should keep this job, like feeding your family and paying the mortgage. These reasons are all valid for your particular life, but you as a human being can just stand up after lunch, walk away, and don’t stop walking till you are far away from your life, literally. We don’t do this because of moral reasons, society and responsibilities, but the fact that we can do it makes this tension between our freedom and unfreedom so interesting.
A second problem is that there is no general reason for life or to keep on living besides the fact that we do. Our basic instincts functions like eating and breathing extend our life till its natural end without much effort on our part. You can believe in some sort of god or afterlife, but that is not more than a personal reason to live for and not one that is grounded in what we know, the facts.
We humans, thinking animals, have, through our living together, invented all kinds of reasons why we live, and we have written books full of rules that tell us what to do and what not to do. We all know this, even if you can’t read or end up in a society that is alien to you, you know that there are rules, and you try to follow them. We are conditioned to follow these written and unwritten rules, but none of these rules relate to any facts about life. The only rule with any basis in facts is that we can ignore all these man-made rules and regulations. We can ignore a red light at a crossroad; no one stops you the next time you approach this symbol that forbids… you are free to make a choice.
All these rules are, of course, necessary to let our society function, but like Sartre said, we are ultimately free to stand up and go our own way, we are condemned to be free.
“My thought is me: that’s why I can’t stop. I exist because I think… and I can’t stop myself from thinking. At this very moment – it’s frightful – if I exist, it is because I am horrified at existing. I am the one who pulls myself from the nothingness to which I aspire.”
Jean-Paul Sartre